Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 17, 2010

It may make you feel good to give someone compliments, or vindicated to tell them what they did wrong, but constructive criticism often requires pulling yourself out of the situation and engaging compassionately in finding solutions. Or is the only solution to find another job with another manager who does care? Much harder.

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 10, 2010

Even their – usually unsuccessful – search for an answer, a solution, or for healing becomes part of it." Their story is their identity. Their ego runs their life. They have their whole sense of self invested in it. " Perhaps this chapter needs revision: "They have their whole sense of Twitter invested in it."

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Penelope Trunk

JULY 29, 2010

Ryan Paugh , who was basically my intern when I met him , and now he's almost my boss and definitely my social-skills mentor , tells me that I am popular because I'm interesting but that I suck at self-promotion. (He After a year there, one of the senior partners approached me and asked if he could be my mentor. I asked why.

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 11, 2009

I am looking for solutions. I have to bite into seven before I find one I like, and I lay in bed in between bites in case I have to cry, and then I bite four more to find a second one of the kind I like, and then there are broken chocolates strewn across my bed. I am not crying, though. I think I am past that.

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Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 22, 2010

I think the best solution would be to take riding lessons first. Also you don't mention exactly why you want a horse. I think I know why and it's for your older son with autism. The horse would be good for him.

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Penelope Trunk

OCTOBER 15, 2010

I have been thinking about your problem some more and I think I understand why you didn't come up with the solution I had (to get your own office in town) on your own. Posted by Alan Perkins on October 15, 2010 at 6:11 pm | permalink | Reply Janet here again. There are psychological issues involved.

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Penelope Trunk

NOVEMBER 24, 2009

And she's stuck and not finding solutions. I am a top U.S. career expert for people over 38 years old, and I've tried to help her with a resume and some coaching years ago. She is afraid to work and has now gotten herself into severe credit card debt and has zero money left. She is afraid to work and earn a living.

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Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 29, 2010

I recently saw Erick Goss speak at a conference on media trends, and the best advice he gave was to find cheap ways to fail because there were no guaranteed solutions. Posted by Jenny on September 29, 2010 at 1:38 pm | permalink | Reply Thanks for this post.

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 15, 2009

Telling myself to shut up wasn't the most healthy solution, but the truth is that being such an intense extrovert, I had never taken the time to be quiet and observe. Wrote down everywhere I looked to ASK QUESTIONS. I never knew how to LISTEN. Unless, of course, there was a debate involved. " And I told him.

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 27, 2010

Posted by BJ Lindy on March 6, 2010 at 9:38 pm | permalink | Reply The Farmer must read all comments and could have come up with the solution: he should buy you a coat or give you one of his. Now they are both off at school and by the time they get home at the end of the day it's nice to have a very welcome interruption from them!

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Penelope Trunk

APRIL 15, 2010

I guess there’s no real solution besides maybe trying to understand other people’s priorities. That’s why crying is so important, it’s a visual signal of just how much the other person wants to get their way. Men should cry more. But then it would just be a race to see who could work up tears fastest. What would that look like?

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 1, 2009

." If your computational competence (so to speak) is so low, then you are in dire need of a support; an ever-present personal assistant, a plethora of ever-available contacts, a finely tuned system for reference, or some equally radical solution is called for. Follow the Delphic precept, plan accordingly, and act accordingly. "This

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Penelope Trunk

JANUARY 8, 2010

Use solutions-based language in tense conversations. Posted by MS on January 8, 2010 at 11:06 am | permalink | Reply A cheap & easy solution to the lost keys problem: find a visible place to hang your keys. Except for the slow eaters, these are bounded problems with reliable solutions. Often, the keys aren't there.

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Penelope Trunk

JANUARY 7, 2010

I find happiness in material things, sure, but I'm happy when I'm with friends that remind me of where I'm from and what we've been through, when I'm with my girlfriend and can think about building a future with her, and when I'm alone and can organize thoughts, make plans, and find solutions.

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 8, 2009

The solution made me feel the ground, which made me not clumsy, which made me confident, which propelled me toward the right one just around the corner. And let us know… Posted by Cathy on December 14, 2009 at 8:07 pm | permalink | Reply Before the right one comes along, there are only wrong ones.

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Penelope Trunk

OCTOBER 9, 2009

. "Hope and Change" are not solutions. Change is a solution. Slogans are not a plan. And the CEO never does the real work. You should know that… Posted by MichaelG on October 9, 2009 at 12:49 pm | permalink | Reply Michael, Pres. Obama is not the CEO of the U.S. He a the nominated leader.

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Penelope Trunk

MARCH 16, 2010

As an engineer I always try to think of technology solutions to problems like this. Sometimes the simplest solution is the least obvious. This may seem like a Pollyanna solution. Like I can't use a Moleskine to track my todo list because I can't reorder items and clear out crossed out items if it's on paper.

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Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 30, 2009

Posted by Simon Hay on January 15, 2010 at 9:38 pm | permalink | Reply As an additional resource you may be interested to check out the Free Sound Therapy Home Programme available from Sensory Activation Solutions.

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 22, 2010

EEG neurofeedback training is the best solution because it trains the brain out of that pattern. You can read about that adventure and how Yoga was part of the solution by searching for "Fender Bender" on my [link] blog.) Offhand, I don't know of any Asperger people who don't have this (or have had it).

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 11, 2010

" Speaking from experience, it was the realization that ending this particular mind-state/personality view at this particular time and place was not going to be any kind of lasting solution to fixing the ultimate reality that needed fixing. I'm originally from Canada but i went to live in Estonia from 1990 to 2004.

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Penelope Trunk

NOVEMBER 1, 2009

My family and many other families have been able to find a solution to this type of situation. " It is described as a tool for farmers and others in the agricultural community to communicate clearly, negotiate effectively, and to find fair and workable solutions. My family incorporated the business many, many years ago.

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Penelope Trunk

MARCH 3, 2010

' Readers that follow you for ages may understand that it was passing or fluid, but an employer or distant mentor could look at that and completely misjudge your stance or capabilities. And I love your solution in your #4 point. So I wonder, does anyone have other solutions? It could be for men and women too.

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 22, 2009

Because for some reason, a feasible solution is usually included with the "why," a bit like getting that second ShamWow for free. I think what "people" want is solutions. We are solution-seekers. Not only was it not OTT, it was mature, kind & mentor-y. It's not magical, but it sort of is.

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Penelope Trunk

NOVEMBER 17, 2009

Find a business analogy that takes the feeling of failure out of it if that's a problem (here's one: a therapist is like a mentor for your marriage). Think of it as a kind of prophylactic. But there are too many ways in which you are your worst enemy: you describe them weekly here in your blog, very entertainingly.

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Penelope Trunk

OCTOBER 18, 2010

So, to be happy, decide what is possible: The perfect solution doesn't have to be immaculate. It's 7pm and your guests are arriving and it's all fine.

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Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 15, 2010

' Solution? I did have to back pedal a little when my youngest – at the age of two – threw a puzzle she was struggling with into the air with an exasperated 'for fuck's sakes!' Explaining that she was saying it wrong – it's 'four five six'!

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Penelope Trunk

AUGUST 30, 2010

i think the needle-point thing is a creative solution. Posted by D on August 31, 2010 at 11:24 pm | permalink | Reply 1. you used one of my favorite words, pedantic. are your readers really this tight-assed?? it's xanax people. it's not like she snorted coke off a hooker's ass mid-board meeting. cool playlist.

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 16, 2010

As a result, I'm content to remain a behind-the-scenes figure or a mentor's mentor ( [link] ). Penelope, Ramit Sethi, Ben Casnocha, David Weekly, etc.) whom I work with and help on a regular basis. Not that I wouldn't mind appearing on national television; I'm just not willing to put in the hard work to do so.

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Penelope Trunk

JANUARY 14, 2010

I wish that I could offer a solution, but alas, I'm just a searcher like yourself. Keep your head up, try to stay positive, and just LIVE!

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Penelope Trunk

NOVEMBER 19, 2009

But then, when I told one of my mentors that I’m not good at sales, he said, “Of course you’re good at sales. I have seen many organizations with highly successful sales organizations based on team collaboration (internally among the staff) and consultative solution discovery (externally with customers). He’s right. Posted by Jim C.

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Penelope Trunk

SEPTEMBER 7, 2010

I wonder, is there really one blanket solution for women in this situation? I started in London in the slump of the eighties but still managed fine with very little money or opportunity. Three months after I arrived in the US there was a crash and a recession, still I found great jobs.

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Penelope Trunk

DECEMBER 4, 2009

But there's no magic solution. There may indeed be no "magic solution", but all the "sprinkles" you wrote about will ultimately continue to brighten your life. May God keep you and bless you and provide a solution so you can obtain the desires of your heart. Being lost cannot be avoided. Virtual hugs.

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Penelope Trunk

FEBRUARY 18, 2010

If you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem. As you say, "if you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem", and I see the problem as people who get too caught up in concealing their desires behind some elaborate facade they think would be more pleasing.

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Penelope Trunk

APRIL 23, 2010

Social networks is mainly for entertainment these days, and I don't see it replacing any serious forms of communication when it comes to coming up with real ideas that solve problems or creates new solutions. Posted by techxinsider on May 1, 2010 at 5:44 pm | permalink | Reply Yes! I agree completely!

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Penelope Trunk

JANUARY 17, 2010

Posted by Anthony on January 18, 2010 at 10:41 am | permalink | @Anthony: You clearly missed that Cathy and Quatrefoil are both Australian…as well as missing the point that extreme nationalism was one CAUSE of WWII and not the solution. If your not part of the solution, your part of the problem. God Bless America. Reality check.

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